Lost and (Partially) Found
Admin note: Although autumn is easily my favorite season of the year, it always brings a bit of the doldrums as far as my competitive side is concerned. This year, my off-season from racing coincides with recuperation from injury, and training has dropped way down the ladder of priorities for a couple of months.
Accordingly, some of the posts you see around here in the near future may be a bit of a departure from your garden-variety athletic blog. I’ve got a couple other ideas up my sleeve for the weeks to come; for today, here’s a snapshot of one of those parenting moments that seem all too fleeting. Sometimes I just like to get these things in print so I’ll remember that they actually happened.
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Like most other people, I believe that I was born with my fair share of marbles. But somehow, somewhere on the journey from adolescence to adulthood, I started to misplace them.
I can’t really track the condition to one specific episode, or any particular series of events – although I suspect that having kids played some role in the matter. All I know is that very often, in the course of my day to day activities, I feel like I’ve completely lost my marbles.
I’ve told some variation of this goofy little story to my kids – most often when they’re in the middle of a game of marbles - enough times that the oldest two have become sick of it; it’s just one more silly thing their idiot father does to try and get cheap laughs. My youngest daughter, however, hasn’t quite seen through the fog yet – which makes for some interesting conversations, many of which go something like this:
Me: What are you guys doing?
7-year-old: We’re playing marbles.
Me: Cool.
4-year-old: Yeah – and look at all the pretty marbles I have! (She proceeds to show me all her favorites)
Me: These are great. You know, I used to have a lot of marbles, but then I lost them.
7-year-old: Uh-huh.
4-year-old: Really?
10-year-old: Don’t listen to him. He’s making a joke.
Me: No, I’m serious – I lost my marbles a long time ago.
4-year-old: Where did they go?
Me: I have no idea. But I wish I knew – I’d try to get some of them back.
10-year-old: STOP LISTENING TO HIM!!
It won’t win me any Father of the Year awards to say this … but honestly, that kind of conversation never gets old. I’ll be 70 years old someday, playing marbles with my grandkids, and I’ll probably say something like “Hey - Did your Dad ever tell you about how I lost my marbles? You should ask him sometime – he’d love to talk about it.”
One day last week, a package was waiting for me when I came home from work: a gift from my 4-year-old daughter. It was a piece of construction paper folded up, with something slightly heavy taking up space inside the creases. When I unfolded it, I found the paper had been decorated with a handful of her favorite stickers:
Off to the side of the above picture are the items that rolled out of the paper once it was unfolded:
That’s right … four colorful marbles. It immediately triggered the following exchange:
Me: Wow! Marbles!
4-year-old: Yeah – they’re for you, since you lost yours. I gave you some of mine.
Me: Thank you, sweetie. I love them.
4-year-old: You’re welcome.
So now I have four more marbles than I used to have, courtesy of my youngest daughter. It’s not nearly enough to bring me up to a full supply, but they’re plenty sufficient to keep me happy. The trade-off is a pretty good one, actually; the experience of little moments like this over the course of many years is definitely worth sacrificing a portion of my sanity.
And if I continue to lose my marbles as I creep into old age, I’ll know which kid I can ask to help me replace them.


