The Runner
Before today's post, a quick administrative note: I’m still a few days away from having a race report on my Blue Canyon misadventure. I’ve settled into that awful second-guessing phase where I’m wondering if I made the correct decision to drop on Saturday. I still think it was right … but let’s just say I’m a little bit less certain today.
In the meantime, I’ve got a couple of items that have been on the back burner for a little while, starting with a Monterey Herald column from last week. The idea is courtesy of my friend Mike, who was reading through the obituaries and saw a mention of our local marathon. It led to a discussion of what any one of us will be remembered for, and how so many people use running as a means of identity, or an opportunity to have life experiences that are truly memorable.
Incidentally, since this article was published, I’ve been surprised to realize what a remarkably common experience the act of reading through the obituaries is for many people. I’ve never understood the appeal myself - but in this case, I’m glad that Mike did.
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Running Life 6/03/10 “The Runner”
A recent obituary in the Herald honored a 55-year-old woman named Belinda, whose “natural friendliness, kindness, generosity, and good cheer made her many friends.” It mentioned that her passions in life included her cats, arts and crafts, and the company of friends.
One other note caught our attention; it stated that Belinda “was especially proud of completing the Big Sur International Marathon.”
Truth be told, it’s not the first time we’ve noticed a line like that in the obituaries – but for some reason, this one made us reflect a bit on life experiences we share.
What defines you? What accomplishment are you most proud of? How do others think of you? When people describe you to others, what will they say?
On the rare occasions that we get recognized around town from our smiling pictures above this column – believe us, it doesn’t happen that often - it’s usually followed by the comment, “Oh…you’re that runner dude.” Or sometimes, more simply, “You’re the runner.”
Even at work or in social situations, friends and acquaintances define us most easily as “the runner”. We’re not always sure how to take this, seeing as how we both have advanced educational degrees, professional careers, loving families, and are active in our religious communities, among other activities we enjoy. But apparently we’re not as noteworthy at anything else as we are at running.
It’s also curious to note that earlier in life, Donald was known as “the rower”, and Mike as “the golfer”. Most of our friends from those times were defined the same way. The sport you practice or activity you enjoy are often the most visible, and therefore the most easily identifiable aspects of how other people see us.
All this brings us back to the obituaries, which are always an interesting place to see how people are defined by others. Loved ones who write them offer their personal views of the departed’s accomplishments, priorities, and joys in life. Appropriately, the person’s family role is mentioned first: loving husband; father of three; doting grandparent. An occupation is frequently listed soon thereafter. But inevitably, the person’s activities and hobbies are described in some detail. And every now and then, you’ll see a mention of our local marathon.
We’ve written countless times about how training for and completing a marathon can be a life-changing experience. It’s an accomplishment that anyone should be proud of, and a milestone that outside observers recognize as significant. For most people, running 26.2 miles means more than just placing one foot in front of the other – it’s a life-defining exercise that reveals and defines the person we are for all the world to see.
Belinda’s obituary described how she “carried the burdens of developmental disabilities with great dignity, perseverance, and courage and would not let her challenges defeat her.” She sounds like someone we’re proud to call a fellow marathoner – and she’s also an example of what any of us can become.
The benefits and opportunities of running are available to anyone. You don’t have to be born a natural athlete, and you don’t have to be uniquely gifted. A life-shaping experience is there for the taking, waiting right outside your door. Maybe one of these years, you’ll even finish a marathon – and if you do, it’s an honor you can carry forever.
And if someone happens to refer to you one day as “the runner”, don’t take it the wrong way – just smile and consider it a compliment.



